Confidence is a powerful emotion that comes from within. With confidence, anything is possible. You take chances, you chase dreams, and you believe that you can do anything you choose.
If you’re wondering how to be more confident, you’re in luck. I’ve got twelve ways to build unbreakable confidence so you can learn how to feel better about yourself.
Incorporating these twelve simple solutions is sure to help you build confidence and have a happier life, so you can do more things you’ve always wanted to try.
Why Do You Need Confidence?
When you don’t have confidence in yourself, you will often face struggles getting through life’s many challenges. Instead of knowing you can deal with whatever is ailing you, you panic.
Having low self-confidence will make things harder. Even a minor upset can be enough to derail your entire life. Instead of facing the challenge, you throw in the towel and give up.
But when you have confidence in yourself, you have the most excellent tool in the universe. You embrace the problem and come up with a solution, just as you have many times before.
Confidence comes from within, and only you have the power. Believe in yourself. Even if you’re in a new situation you’ve never faced before, you know you can survive—each and every time.
It takes time and effort to build your self-confidence. Don’t panic if you don’t have any yet. We’re going to help fix that with these twelve simple ways to build unbreakable confidence.
12 Ways to Build Unbreakable Confidence
1. Make plans for your future.
If you want to feel confident, you need to have something that makes you feel proud. A family, career, new car, or boat are just a few things that can give you pride.
Think about your life and your future. What do you want to be able to say you have five years from now? What goals do you hope to obtain? What do you want to do and have?
Once you have a plan for what you want in your future, you can start taking steps to get you there. Your confidence will begin to grow as you move closer to achieving your dreams.
Even baby steps in the right direction can be enough to start you on the path to success. You can be anything and do anything you want. Figure out what you want and go for it.
2. Don’t compare yourself to others.
One of the biggest mistakes people make that undermines their confidence is to compare your life to another person. Comparisons are like poison. You fill your mind with negative thoughts.
Often, you end up comparing yourself to someone who seems to be doing great and has everything together. And many times, we find ourselves lacking in some area.
We all have individual strengths and weaknesses. And we’ve all been on different life journeys. Trying to measure yourself to another person is a moot point.
Instead of worrying about how you measure up to another person, take stock of yourself. Learn your flaws and your strengths.
Do more to improve on where you’re falling short and praise yourself for what you’re doing right. As long as you’re proud of the way you’re living and the things you do, nothing else matters.
3. Stay positive
Nothing destroys your confidence as much as negative thinking. And it’s a lot easier to be negative when things go wrong than it is to force a positive attitude.
If you want to improve your confidence, you have to learn how to stay positive, no matter what the issue. There is always an upside to every bad situation if you take the time to find it.
When you’re having a bad day, focus on the blessings. Take the time to think about the good things you’ve got in your life. And be thankful for what you have.
Go for a walk or do a fun activity to help you stop focusing on your problems. Take the time to step away and look at the situation from all angles to formulate a plan of attack.
When you’re having negative thoughts, quickly shut them down and find the upside of the situation. There’s always a solution to any problem you face. Sometimes, you just have to find it.
4. Don’t water yourself down
It took me a lot of years to be happy with the person I am. And it started the day I stopped pretending to be someone I’m not.
There are going to be people in this world that disapprove of you. No matter how proper and perfect your act, you just won’t measure up.
And that’s okay. To build complete confidence, you have to discover who you are and learn how to present it to the world. It’s okay to tone down your outspoken nature to be polite.
But you should not change who you are to impress anyone. Be yourself, and the right people will love you. Wave your beautiful freak flag high and say proudly, “This is me. Love me or leave.”
5. Be open to change
The only thing in life that remains the same is that everything will change. People who are too set in their ways don’t do well with change. But dealing with change can affect your confidence.
To build unbreakable confidence, learn how to embrace change. Just because things are changing around you doesn’t mean that you have to change yourself.
Change gives you the opportunity for self-growth. You can learn something new or experience something different. When you have confidence, you roll with the changes without freaking out.
Your confidence in yourself gives you the ability to believe that you can weather any storm, any changes, no matter how much they alter your current situation. You are strong. You got this.
6. Commit yourself
Plenty of people are terrified of committing. Not just to a long-term relationship but even to smaller things like a job or a mortgage.
If you want to build confidence, it starts with being able to commit to something and see it through to the end. Now, I’m not saying run out and buy a home or propose to your partner.
You can practice commitment by setting goals and working hard until you obtain them. Commit yourself to grow as a person. Be a better friend. Act like a more compassionate stranger.
The more you follow through with the goals you’ve set for yourself, the more confidence you will build. Prove to yourself that you are someone you can rely on, no matter the situation.
7. Be self-aware
A lack of confidence comes from being insecure. To build confidence, start by being self-aware. Think actively about your behaviors, responses, facial expressions, body language, and tone.
I can’t tell you how many misunderstandings occur between people due to misinterpretation of a person’s word choices, defensive body posture, or tone of voice (usually sarcasm).
When you’re out of your element, you might get self-conscious, causing poor performance. Pay attention to your behavior, and make adjustments to make you more confident.
Take your cues from those around you as to how you should behave and speak. Once you’ve learned how to acclimate to different situations, you’ll have the confidence to deal with anything.
8. Have a strong character
A strong moral character is the cornerstone of a confident, successful lifestyle. Being a good person doesn’t just help bring good karma, but it also boosts your self-esteem and self-worth.
Doing good deeds for others is a great way to make you feel good about yourself. Helping others is sometimes better than helping yourself.
To build unbreakable confidence, start by being a better person. Help those less fortunate or give advice to a friend going through a crisis. Buy a stranger’s coffee when you get your own.
When you do something for someone other than yourself, you feel a sense of pride in yourself. Even if no one ever finds out what you did, you know. And it affirms that you are a good person.
9. Gain life experience
Life is short, so you want to do everything you can to live to the fullest. Staying safe and secure in your private bubble may protect you from bad things, but you’re not truly living.
No one makes it through life without making mistakes. It’s how we deal with these aversions that determines what type of person we become. Life experiences are great for building confidence.
Overcoming the trials and tribulations of life is a necessary part of growing as a person. You gain confidence with each obstacle you beat. No matter what life throws at you, you’ve got this.
You are your own personal gladiator, ready, and willing to fight for your life. Fear of failure only pushes you to try harder. And you never give up hope that you will get through this.
10. Stop caring about the opinions of others
There are going to be people in your life that disapprove of you, no matter what you do. You could be following in Mother Teresa’s footsteps, and still, it wouldn’t be enough.
Confidence comes from yourself, not the opinions of others. Stop caring about what anyone thinks of your life and how you choose to live it.
You are the one who will have to think back on your list of what-ifs when it’s time for you to leave Earth. Don’t let the opinions of others keep you from checking off items on your list.
No one can tell you the best way to live your life. They can only tell you the way they would do it. But they aren’t you. Only you can decide what kind of life you want to live, the person to be.
11. Face your fears
Fear can be paralyzing. It can cause you to miss out on life’s experiences. To gain unbreakable confidence, it’s crucial to learn how to overcome your fears. Live your life to the fullest.
Now, some of you may be saying; easier said than done. And I agree. I’ve always been a very nervous person. I would skip out on fun times because I was scared of everything going wrong.
Eventually, it got to the point where I was too scared to try anything new, so I was always left behind. It took a special someone to pull me out of my comfort zone and encourage me to live.
When you learn to overcome your fears, you start to build confidence in yourself. Always remember that you can achieve anything you dream if you just dare to try.
12. Stay educated
I’ve met plenty of people in my day who think that there’s nothing left to learn because they’ve completed school. I pity anyone who loses the desire to keep being educated.
Education doesn’t just come from books. It comes from life. It comes from learning new things and expanding your horizons. And it’s from keeping your wits sharp and your brain fully firing.
No matter how old you are, you should always strive to keep learning new things. Keep up with current events going on in the world. Learn a new language. Or visit new culture. Try something.
When you have experience and knowledge about something, you feel more confident doing those things and talking about them with others. Never stop growing mentally.
Congratulations on Building Unbreakable Confidence
There you have it. I’ve given you twelves ways to build unbreakable confidence. Using these helpful tips is sure to help you have a better self-image and self-worth.
Strive to feel confident in yourself in everything that you do, even if you’re facing something you’ve never experienced before. Over time, you won’t have to force yourself to feel confident.
Confidence comes from within, and only you have the power to change that. You should never let the opinions of others affect how you feel about yourself.
Confidence is power, and you are strong my friend! Now get out there and show the world your true colors. You’ve got this! 😃