There’s an old saying, “revenge is best served cold.” It’s a common and normal reaction to want justice for a perceived wrong. When people feel they are mistreated, you want to make them pay. You’re not thinking about physical harm; you only want them to feel the same way you do.
Sometimes people choose to devote their time and energy to revenge either subconsciously or on purpose because it’s often easier to focus on getting someone back than it is to forgive and let go. It can take a lot of soul-searching and mental energy to forgive someone that wronged you.
Getting revenge on someone has more negatives than positives. While you may feel great when someone gets “a taste of their own medicine,” you should know this feeling doesn’t last long for most people.
Refusing to forgive someone does take an emotional toll. If it becomes a constant habit, you can end up unhappy, bitter, and unable to trust other people. Plus, you may start to feel guilty. It doesn’t take long for feelings of guilt to replace satisfaction.
Another problem with focusing on revenge is you could be wrong. Maybe you misread the situation or took words out of context. It’s easy to do, especially in today’s world where gossip often overshadows the truth. Imagine how you’ll feel if you spend time and energy getting revenge on someone for no reason?
Even though revenge may not be the best option, that doesn’t mean you have to sit back and let people put you down or walk all over you. There is another option. Instead of focusing your talent on getting revenge, show everyone that you can and will succeed. After all, success is the best revenge.
Why Success Is the Best Revenge
Did you know that some of the most successful people in the world suffered setbacks and failures? Sylvester Stallone, who is famous for the Rocky Series, Rambo, and other successful movies, was once broke and homeless. Matt Damon and Ben Affleck couch-surfed with friends before finding fame.
Elon Musk is another example of success being the best revenge. The slightly eccentric and brilliant architect of Tesla and CEO of SpaceX has had more than his share of setbacks during his life. Tesla’s self-driving cars experienced several problems, including crashes. SpaceX has also had its share of failures, often broadcast internationally.
Instead of giving up and looking for small ways to get back at those that doubt him, Elon Musk keeps trying until he succeeds. His successes are watched globally, and it is the best type of revenge.
It’s easy to come up with hundreds of ways to get revenge on someone. The initial conversation can be a form of therapy, as it helps to get things off your chest. Keeping grievances bottled-up is just as detrimental as focusing solely on revenge.
However, you don’t want to lose sight of the fact you can succeed when others are convinced you’ll fail. Proving them wrong with your success is the best revenge.
Here are five reasons why you want to put your success first and forget about trying to get revenge.
1. Victory Is Always Best After Failure
To succeed, you must be willing to accept your failures. No one can claim success every time they try something new. Your losses can seem like devastating events that completely alter your life goals, but there’s another way to look at it. Your failures are learning experiences and not the end of your dreams.
Even though it can take years before you see success, the wait is worth it. After multiple failures and listening to naysayers, finally accomplishing your goal brings a feeling that you probably haven’t experienced before. You feel like a weight is lifted both emotionally and physically. It’s also okay to do a small victory dance. You’ve earned it with all of your hard work.
Finally achieving success after the doubts is the ultimate revenge. Imagine how Elon Musk feels when a SpaceX rocket successfully delivers a payload to the International Space Station. Your success might not be so grand or newsworthy, but the feelings of satisfaction and accomplishment are the same.
Why do you feel great? You might not realize it, but subconsciously you can be your worst enemy. When you start doubting your abilities after failing, you’re unwittingly trying to convince yourself to give up. Your success is not only getting revenge on others, but you’re also self-vindicating.
Enjoy a few minutes of success, then start pushing yourself towards the next goal. The next victory is even better than the first.
2. You Become a New Positive Thinking Person
Everyone has fears. The key is to not let your fears overwhelm you. People that have broken your trust can make you afraid to reach out and try new things. Your worries only multiply when you listen to others predicting your failure. An ongoing fight between your subconscious and conscious mind can also add to your fears.
Negative thinking also comes with fear. It’s also difficult to escape. Watch or read the news, and it’s easy to see why negative thoughts are the norm. Staying positive after a failure is difficult. Add in your fears, and it’s easy to give up on your goals.
If your goals are also your passion, focus on this. Ignore the tiny negative voice in your head. Stop listening to people, even family members telling you to settle for what you have. Focus on your mental health. Stay mentally strong and keep telling yourself that you will succeed.
When you constantly believe that you will succeed, you’ll be amazed at what you achieve. The feeling of success is the best revenge on anyone that doubted you.
3. You Find Lifelong Friends During Your Journey to Success
Have you ever noticed how people flock to someone successful? It’s similar to insects gathering around a porch light. When you turn the light off, the insects fly away. It’s the same when you fail – suddenly, you feel like you’re alone.
After a failure, take a look at who’s standing by you. These are your true friends, and it’s a lesson you want to remember. It will be repeated throughout your life.
It’s hard to find people that want to stick around with someone that fails. It’s also hard for you to accept their sympathy and caring gestures. There is a bright side to failure. You have the rare opportunity to learn who your real friends are. These are the people that will stick with you through the good and bad times. It’s a gift you don’t want to ignore.
Experiencing a failure is devastating. It can be emotionally challenging to find the strength to get back on your feet. This is when your true friends are a blessing. They are the ones that will help pick you up. Your friends are the ones that care about you and not your successes. They can give you the encouragement you need to keep reaching for your goals.
When you do succeed, don’t be surprised when old friends show up again. You already know who your true friends are, and this is another form of revenge.
4. You Become a Success Symbol to Others
Success is the best revenge when you are a symbol of hope and possibility to others experiencing failures. You feel great with others coming to you for advice, especially in front of people that doubted your abilities. It’s an intoxicating feeling that also comes with responsibilities.
Your success has shown people that their dreams are possible. It’s your responsibility to give them the exact encouraging words your friends gave you. Imagine how it would feel to know others are using you as an example. It’s the best revenge to take on others that didn’t believe in you.
Helping others live up to their potential is something you can be proud of. It’s a better feeling than simply getting revenge.
5. Other People Start to Report Your Accomplishments
Remember everyone that said your dream was impossible? Success is the best revenge when you’re not the one singing your praises. Quietly working towards your goals, and achieving them, will get notice.
Reaching each milestone and achieving each goal is a fantastic feeling. Your sense of satisfaction only improves as you hear others talk about your accomplishments. It’s a form of validation that does wonders for your self-confidence. You’ll need confidence when you start reaching for your next goal.
Unfortunately, you may encounter a downside to your success. You won’t make everyone happy. Some of the same people that didn’t have faith in you will still say negative things. It’s a sad fact of life. Some people will never be happy when someone else succeeds.
You need to stay positive and remember that you succeeded. It will give you the push you need to go after your next dream.
Bonus Reasons Why Success Is the Best Revenge
If you needed another reason why success is excellent for you, here are two more.
Learn Your Capabilities
You’ll never know what you’re capable of unless you try. Your imagination is limitless; just think of all the possibilities. Over the past 120 years, mankind has created some amazing inventions. Elon Musk is looking to send a shuttle to Mars, and NASA is planning a mission back to the moon. A century ago, humans were still working on achieving flight.
When you look at what humans have accomplished, you see there are no limits to what you can do.
Your chances of succeeding decrease when you let fear get in the way. There’s always the chance of failure, and it’s greater than your odds of succeeding. People do like to bet against the underdog, and this can wear you down. What’s important is you continue to believe in yourself.
With success, you learn that you’re capable of doing amazing things. It’s an unforgettable feeling when you realize you beat the odds. It’s a feeling you don’t want to miss. Keep working toward your dreams. Don’t listen to other people. Believe in yourself. After all, look at what we’ve accomplished in 100 years.
Discover What’s Important
You quickly learn what’s important as you work toward your goal. Some longtime friends will desert you, while others will stick around. It’s something important and a life lesson you want to remember.
Hard work does come with rewards, but it also teaches you valuable lessons. You’ll use what you learn to advance your success. Hard work takes perseverance, and this is an important skill to learn. Would Matt Damon be famous if he had given up? He learned through countless rejections that perseverance is an important quality.
Belief and support are also important. Without confidence in yourself, nothing will be accomplished. Everyone that doubted you would be thrilled to see that self-doubt.
However, you can do almost anything if you believe in yourself. The support of friends and family will also strengthen your resolve. With belief and support, you’ll be amazed at what you can do. It’s how Matt Damon made it to the big screen.
Success is the best revenge. You can spend hours, days, and even years plotting out the perfect revenge, but in the long run, what does it get you? You’re still miserable, and you’ve lost most of your friends. You can look at failure in another light: it’s a learning experience, which is always positive.
You’re not the first person to fail, and you’re lucky if it’s your first time. Most of the successful people you read about had failures. Numerous now-famous people had incredible hardships, haters, and losses to overcome. However, they still persevered and showed all the naysayers that you can rise above the negativity.
Learn from your failures and continue to believe in yourself. Don’t listen to what others are saying. In the end, it doesn’t matter. Your failings show you who your friends are, and it also makes revenge sweeter when you succeed.